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The Surprising Thing Men REALLY Want

April 21, 2014

By Helena Hart, M.A.
Many women have this perception that what men really want is a woman who’s giving and nurturing, and who takes care of his every need.
The truth is, men are “production junkies.”They feel good when their “producing” energy is being thoroughly used up – for men, this is insatiable.
Most women aren’t aware of this because for us, we usually have a “cap” on what we want to produce in a certain amount of time, and then we want to take a break to recharge so we don’t burn out. It’s not the same for men.
What masculine energy men really want is to make YOU happy- and they LOVE playing the role of provider and producer, even in small ways.
Men are addicted to “fixing” things and solving problems. Their biggest desire is to be with a woman who allows him to do things for her – a woman who’s able to RECEIVE what he has to give!
We need to be aware that men really shine in that role of provider and producer – and make sure that we’re allowing them to fully embrace that role andbe that kind of man for us.
You don’t want to be ripping men off of their favorite role!When you start to take over some of this role, you actually end up pushing men away.
The reason why so many women feel so burnt out is because they’re doing and doing and doing – they’re going against what’s most natural to them, which is receiving.Production is the opposite of receiving.
Many women take on a lot of the masculine “doing” energy in the relationship – and then build up resentment around that without even realizing it.
If you’re overfunctioning or “doing” more than what feels good to you, men often won’t know. Since men do what they want to do ALL the time, they assume that we do as well! They believe that if you’re doing something, it’s because youwantto do it.
So many women are afraid to let go of “doing” and ask for help.We hold the belief that if we allow someone else to do something for us, they’re going to think we’re weak or have some sort of judgment about it.
Another important thing to remember is…
Acknowledgement and appreciation are the “fuel” that men run on. Men want to know that what they do makes you happy!
If you let a man know what feels good to you throughappreciation, the right man for you will be more than happy to keep doing it! Men are always wondering how they can make women happy – and even the most masculine-energy men need a little direction with that at times.
This is NOT about changing who a man is,or molding him into some sort of robot who’s only there to serve you. Nagging or controlling are obviously BIG turn-offs to men.
It’s about letting a man know all the things he does that make you happy throughappreciation and acknowledgement of him.You can do this with a smile or with words. A simple “Thank you… ” or “That feels so good… ” goes a long way!
Men CAN’T fall in love when we’re giving to them – they fall in love when they’re giving to US.
When you demonstrate that you canreceivefrom a manand allow him to play his favorite role of provider and producer, that’s when a man feels the most connected to you and can REALLY fall in love.
You’ll be the most attractive woman in the world to a man if you allow him to give to you and play that role. Men will flock to you when you learn how to do this – try it and you’ll see!

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com /?expert=Helena_Hart,_M.A.

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