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4 Steps On How To Touch A Woman From The Moment You First Meet Her To The Moment You Two Get Sexual

April 21, 2014

By Bruno B

When learning how to touch a woman, you should focus on the following two important things: first off, you always have to be totally comfortable with touching women, and second off, you have to make sure that whenever you touch a woman, she feels completely comfortable with you touching her.
The key to understanding these two vital things is that when you touch a woman and she realizes that touching her feels totally natural and fun to you,not only will she start to trust you more but also she’ll start to feel very comfortable with touching you back. The reason why she’ll trust you more is because it’s well tested and proven that whenever you do or say something that feels totally natural and fun to you while meeting a woman, it’s very likely that she’ll soon start to subconsciously see you as an authority or an expert on the thing that you’re doing or saying to her.
Once you get her to feel comfortable with you touching her, all you should be doing next is using the right type of touch that matches the right mindset that you should embrace at each one of the three different stages of an interaction: attraction, rapport and seduction. Next, I’m going to share with you the 3 steps on how to touch a woman from the moment you first meet her to the moment you two get sexual.
1. Use your hand gestures to bridge the gap between not touching her and starting to touch her
When learning how to touch a woman at the very beginning of an interaction, you should make sure that you do the following two vital things: first off, you need to learn how to use your hand gestures without touching the woman in order to bridge the gap between not touching her and touching her, and second off, you need to learn how to properly touch her without freaking her out. Next I’m going to give you the step-by-step instructions on how to smoothly transition from not touching her into starting to touch her.
Before you start touching the woman that you’ve just met, you always need to make sure that she feels totally comfortable with you touching her.
The safest way to bridge the gap between not touching her at all and starting to touch her is to use your hand gestures. Using your hand gestures will basically help you overcome any of the woman’s initial touching barriers.
Your hand gestures are meant to help you smoothly enter her personal space without touching her yet on one side, and on the other side, they’re meant to help you indirectly let her know that you might be touching her very soon. Once she feels comfortable with you invading her personal space without touching her yet, then you can move straight to touching her.
So, here’s what you do. While you’re talking to the woman, try to slightly move one of your hands around her so that you can easily enter her touch zone. You just make the motion of touching her without actually touching her. You just move your hand right near her as if you’re going to touch her. You want to move it slowly, because if you move it too fast, she’s going to flinch and feel like she needs to protect herself. I suggest that you make that hand motion as many times as necessary until you notice that she feels totally comfortable with it. Once you see that she’s completely comfortable with your hand gestures, you can then start touching her.
For the rest of this article I’m going to show you how to touch a woman at each one of the three different stages of an interaction: attraction, rapport and seduction.
2. Touch her playfully for a couple of seconds at the stage of attraction.
When touching the woman at the stage of attraction, you have to make sure that your touch lasts for no longer than 1-3 seconds. This is why some top seducers like to call this type of touch a temporary touch. At the stage of attraction your touch must feel very playful and lighthearted on her skin, because you want to get her attracted to you by touching her in a way that shows her that you might be potentially interested in her while not being needy towards her. This is why it’s extremely important that at this point you embrace your playful mindset.
The parts of the woman’s body that are considered appropriate to touch at the stage of attraction are: her upper outer arm, her shoulders and her upper back. For example, you could put your arm around her shoulder as if she’s your friend. But make sure that you don’t put your arm around her neck because most women aren’t comfortable with that.
3. Touch her softly and caringly for 3-5 seconds at the stage of rapport while pretending to be her best friend.
You should embrace the mindset of being the woman’s best friend when touching her at the stage of rapport, because you want to build trust and comfort with her. Here you have to forget and let go of that playful mindset that you had at the attraction stage. You also have to make sure that you’re not rushing your mind into thinking of having sex with the woman when you’re at the stage of rapport. You want to come across as a non-wanting and non-needy man who’s not desperate to get anything out of her. What you want to focus on at this point is simply getting to know her.
During the stage of rapport, you want to be touching her as if you want to share with her something that you normally don’t share with anybody else. You also want to be prepared to kind of console her if she’s feeling sad or having a hard time with something. You need to make her feel accepted through showing her that you totally understand her and her current situation in life. Even if she says to you that she likes to kick her little puppies sometimes, you should just show her that you understand that.
The kind of touch that you should use during the rapport stage is a lingering touch. This type of touch lasts for about 3-5 seconds. At this point your touch should feel very soft and caring.
The woman’s body parts that are considered appropriate to touch at the stage of rapport are: her hands, her low back and her face.
Here’s a little sign of warning. When touching the woman’s hands, you should touch them for 3-5 seconds but without holding them.
The reason why you should be touching the woman for no longer than 5 seconds during the stage of rapport is because you want to get her to want you to touch her more. This touching strategy basically helps you warm her up and get her ready for entering the seduction stage without giving you any kind of her resistance later.
The way you’d touch her during the stage of rapport is that, for example, you’d slightly push and brush her hair out of her face. You could also touch the back of her neck and kind of slide your fingers slowly up the back of her head. This touching technique is proven successful when transitioning from the stage of rapport to the stage of seduction.
The way you can initiate the above touching technique is by simply saying to the woman something like:”Let me try this real quick and see how it feels.”Then, you simply put one of your hands at the bottom of the back of her neck and ride it up her neck so that your fingers are facing the top of her head. So, you’d run your fingers up her neck as if you were going to grab her hair. And, then at the root of her hair you’d grab a handful of her hair. Next you’d simply pull her head back and down slowly so that she has to pull it up.
Here’s an important warning. I strongly advise you that you do the whole hair grabbing and hair pulling thing only at the tail-end of the stage of rapport.
4. Touch her powerfully and manly but still caringly for as long as you want at the stage of seduction.
During the stage of seduction you should be touching her in a way that shows her that you’re a powerful man. Your touch should feel powerful and manly but still caring because you never want to be hurting her. The way to make sure that you don’t hurt her is to use a little bit of your playfulness and then mix it up with your manly power. But also make sure that you never snap out of your overall sexual state at this stage because if you do, the woman will soon snap out of her sexual state too and the game will be over.
At the stage of seduction, you want to make sure that you touch her in a very sexual way. Your touch should feel very desiring to the woman, because you want to make her feel desired.
During the stage of seduction you should use a constant touch. The constant touch means that you can keep your touch on one part of her body for as long as you want.
Your touch should feel not only very powerful and manly but also very palm heavy. What I mean by the word ‘palm heavy’ is that if you, for example, want to move from touching her low back to touching her legs, you should just keep dragging or sliding your hand’s palm from her low back area over her ass area all the way down to her legs area. In other words, you don’t need to take your hand off her low back in order to move it and then put it on her legs or any other area of her body that you want to touch next.
The reason why you should never lift up your hand when wanting to move from touching one area of her body to touching another area of her body is because if you do, you might most likely face the risk of having her completely snap out of her sexual state. If she snaps out of her sexual state, the game will be over. This is why it’s extremely important that you use a palm heavy touch during the stage of seduction.
Here’s an important note. Make sure that you never apologize to the woman for touching her in a certain way if you’ve touched her the right way and at the right time during an interaction. The reason why I strongly advise you not to apologize to her for it is because if you do, not only will she subconsciously see you as a very insecure and creepy guy but also she might fiercely reject you.
Here’s why she sees your apologizing as a big turn-off: whenever you apologize to the woman for something that you don’t need to apologize for, she’ll instantly see you as a very weak man who’s unsure of himself and his feelings.
As for the woman’s body areas that are considered appropriate to touch at the stage of seduction, it’s needless to say that you can be touching any part of her body at this point as long as you’re not hurting her in any way.
To sum up, I’d just like to remind you of the key to your dating success when learning how to touch a woman: always make sure that your touch feels totally natural and fun to you because once she can feel that you enjoy touching her, she’ll soon start to feel very comfortable touching you back and you’ll be on the right path to successfully seducing her.
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